This book offers Akong Rinpoche’s timeless wisdom to help us face the challenge of living happy and useful lives in an increasingly bewildering world. We cannot change the world to conform to our wishes. What we can do is to have mastery over how we experience it: we can learn to accept and adapt to ever-changing circumstances maturing our minds in the process. With balancing we learn to access our inner potential through the process of living.
Contents
1. Are you genuinely yourself?
We look for freedom in the wrong place
All things change
Inner potential
It’s not instant coffee
2. Balancing: What is it?
Healing wounds, preventing new ones
A recipe for nourishment
Seeing the whole picture
A step by step maturation
No blame
Uniqueness of experience
Balancing is not goal-oriented
Reflections and exercises
A daily balancing exercise
3. Free to be who we are
Free despite all trappings
The chains that keep us from flying
Seeing both friends and enemies as helpful
We are not caught in a single script
Use negative as the ground for learning
Reflection: Freedom comes from deep understanding
Reflection: Change the mind from negative to positive
4. How we come to be as we are
Four major factors shape our personalities
Cause and result – known as karma
Genetic heritage
Pre-natal conditioning
Conditioning in life
Reliving the birth experience
Inborn talents and faculties
Body is house, mind the tenant
So the mind is what matters most
Reflection: How do I value myself?
5. Change the habits of a lifetime
Start by assessing what is there
When meeting daily challenges
We can learn from failure and move on
Reflection: Learning to grow from adversity
6. Being flexible is being alive
Going beyond ego-clinging: the door is not locked
Flexibility of choice in the path we take
Cultural prejudices produce rigid attitudes
Going beyond prejudice
Reflection: Developing maturity and flexibility
7. Coordination: body-speech-mind
‘Show all your faults – clearly like crystal’
Not too little, not too much
Listening clearly
Is the bottle half-empty or half-full?
Mindfulness keeps us alert and alive
Reflection: When communication breaks down
8. Coordination: the Middle Way
Coordination: the middle way
We wear masks
We project
Helping others according to their needs
No more inner warfare
Letting go of limited perspectives
Allowing space
Lack of coordination in the family
Communication failure
How we begin
Working with and for others – a source of energy
9. Caring for our world
How everything is interrelated
Playing with our mother’s eye
The world we live in
Old Tibet
The value of simplicty
Our planet is not the only one
Self-regulating organisms
What we can do
Taming and training our mind/minds?
Mind is beyond everything
It’s time to begin the change
10. Impermanence: the way things are
The freshness of a flower: now!
The foolish fox and the foolish woman
Seeing everything as illusion
Accepting reality: the beginning of wisdom
Reflection: Right motivation
11. Non-expectation compassion
About non-expectation
What the world needs now: limitless compassion
Labels are not helpful
We make our lives an offering
Tara Rokpa Therapy: the significance of the name by Akong Rinpoche
Tara Rokpa Therapy: background and contents
Working with the Elements by Edie Irwin
The Refuge from Tibet by Lea Wyler
Rokpa International: Helping where help is needed
Picture gallery of Cetres and activities
Reviews
Westerners live under stressful conditions that tend to produce an imbalance in their minds and emotions. Using the wisdom of Tibetan compassion, Akong Rinpoche has designed methods to help people bring their minds into harmony and balance.